Ep.072: Ryan Wekenman on the gift of singleness.
Can you return the "gift" of singleness? Can you get store credit?
In this episode, Raleigh Sadler and Ryan Wekenman, author of the new book Single Today, drawing from their personal experiences, explore the challenges of singleness and the significance of finding community and embracing the present moment. They candidly discuss the well-meaning but often hurtful comments single people receive and the societal pressure to find a spouse. Ryan shares his journey of self-discovery and learning to invite God into his singleness. Raleigh reflects on the gift of singleness and the need to reframe our perspective on singleness as an opportunity for growth and connection with God and others. The conversation is a deep dive into viewing singleness in a different light and finding gratitude in every stage of life. It underscores the importance of embracing weaknesses, owning who you are, and not comparing yourself to others. They even share their unique experiences of being single pastors and the misconceptions surrounding singleness. The main takeaway is a call to celebrate where you are, whether married or single.
Highlights and takeaways from the conversation:
Singleness can be challenging to discuss, as well-meaning comments can often be hurtful and lead to confusion and self-doubt. It's important to acknowledge these feelings and understand that they are valid. You are not alone in this journey.
Finding community and building meaningful relationships is important—they're essential—for both single and married individuals. This sense of connection can provide the support and understanding you need in your singleness journey.
Inviting God into our singleness and embracing the present moment can help alleviate feelings of loneliness and isolation.
The gift of singleness, often misunderstood, should be reframed as a unique opportunity for personal growth and deep connection with God and others. It's a time to focus on self-discovery, self-acceptance, and building meaningful relationships.
Singleness is not a waiting period but a life-filled season filled with joys and opportunities.
Practicing gratitude and focusing on the present moment can help overcome past regrets and worries about the future.
Embrace your weaknesses and own who you are.
Avoid comparing yourself to others and focus on celebrating where you are.
Find gratitude in every stage of life, including singleness.
Trust in God's love and plan for your life.
View singleness as an opportunity for growth and unique experiences.
Challenge misconceptions and stereotypes about singleness.
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If you like this episode—and how could you not—you must pick up a copy of Ryan’s new book, Single Today. You can also follow him on Instagram.
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